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Three Steps and One Bow

Buddhist Monks California Pilgrimage

 

Buddhist monks did a “Three Steps and One Bow” pilgrimage from San Francisco to Seattle, which last almost one year. Objective of bowing was for world peace. Slide show is accompanied by the famous Temple Bell Drum Chant which praises the Buddhas, Bodhisattvas and the Dharma. Chant is from a moving poem which contains many vows and aspirations of a vigorous Buddhist cultivator.

 

Three Steps and One Bow is an experience that has lasting impact on those who go through it with sincerity.

Though I’ve seen and read about the pilgrimage from San Francisco to Seattle before, it is always a reminder of how my own practice can improve.

 

Once you are done with the video, I recommend visiting this link and listening to “Three Steps One Bow” by Fabrizio Alberico.  A beautiful song the captures the practice wonderfully.

One day I’ll walk without touching the ground
I’ll speak without making a sound
I won’t seek, just walk in a different time
Three steps and one bow
Three steps and one bow

 

…joining palms

Catholic Monks In Wyoming Face Opposition Over Monastery Plans

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“Ranch owner Dave Grabbert, whose family has held the property since 1938, has agreed to sell to the religious order, and he describes the two monks he has met as personable, intelligent and “just decent guys.”

“I don’t care if they’re Hindus, Buddhists or what they are, but being decent people, that’s really a plus in this day and age,” Grabbert said. “Not everyone is.””

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“Grabbert said the hermit monks are good neighbors.

“What’s puzzling to me is if people complain about these guys as neighbors, what kind of neighbors would they want,” he said.”

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People sometimes amaze me. There is not a single argument in the entire article that reasonably states why they should not be allowed to build. And really, if this community has issues with hermit monks moving in,,, what the heck kind of neighbors would they prefer.

Just makes no sense; let them buy the land and build.

Things to consider; sometimes it is hard to be a vegetarian

I’ve been a strict vegetarian for a bit more than 8 years now.  My decision was based on a few things; namely health, and it just made sense to my Buddhist practice. It is in no way a “commandment” but it just seems to fit for me.  I wrote a post a while back with my thoughts on being a vegetarian, if you’re interested in reading it.

Over the years being a vegetarian hasn’t been that hard. My wife is not a vegetarian, but her and I made adjustments. I have been so fortunate to be married to an amazing wife who was willing to make those adjustments with me.  Even when my son was born it just wasn’t that hard.

I know a few of my #OMCru Twitter sangha is considering the change and am extremely supportive in their decisions. Like I said before it is in no way a commandment in Buddhism; it is a personal choice – like every part of ones practice. I do consider it a very important part of my practice, but lately, it is a hard decision from time to time and I wanted to offer any insight I have to others.  I would never tell anyone not to become a vegetarian, but there are many things to consider.

Yesterday was a good example. It was my son’s first day of 2nd grade. When we picked him up we told him he could choose anywhere he liked and we would go for lunch. He wanted Mc Donalds.  I explained to him that Daddy cannot eat anything there except ice cream, and I really needed lunch. (no, can’t even eat fries there as I believe they still use beef fat to fry them) Of course he wasn’t happy about this, but reluctantly switched his choice over to In N Out.

Also, it is sometimes a challenge for my wife when grocery shopping.  She always manages very well, but I know it is a challenge to work around 1 third of the family having a special diet.  I really appreciate all her efforts and am honestly troubled by how I make things difficult.

This is my point; because of my choice of lifestyle, someone else had to not get what they wanted (yes one may be better that the other health-wise, but not the point), or, I make certain aspects of life challenging on loved ones.

Now, I do presently intend to continue on the path as a vegetarian for now. I can’t say what the future holds in that department, but my present intention is to stay. But, causes and conditions are far and wide; and something to really look at deeply.

I wish all my sangha friends the best in their decisions.

Grandpa

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4 generations, originally uploaded by mindonly.

Tonight my Grandpa quietly passed away. He lived a very full 92 years and passed on many great lessons and traits to my Dad, myself, and by our example, will pass them on to my son as well.

 

This is a picture from a couple years ago that I will always cherish. Four generations of us Freedain men.

Every day is a good day

Practice is not something you have to go to temple for. Practice is not something you need to sit and chant to do. Practice is not something you need robes for.
Sometimes the days suffering is more than we would prefer to deal with. But, there is something I’ve been thinking of a lot lately when this occurs. ‘Every day is a good day’. Sometimes work is difficult, bills stack up higher than Mount Everest, or your child decides to test your patience.

Practice is waking up in the morning, getting dressed, living your life and taking on it’s challenges head on; and yes, that is so hard to remember at times.

Take a second, look out the window, look in the mirror, look at your own hand, and observe. Today is a good day. Every day is a good day.

I bow with forehead to floor, palms facing up and thank my friend Jack for pointing me to this one:
http://zendirtzendust.com/2010/02/07/baring-my-neck-to-the-morning/

I bow with forehead to floor, palms facing up and thank all my Dharma friends for daily inspiration.

…joining palms

Seeing the seeds of mindfulness take root; being humbled.

This weekend, my son and I went to the park and kicked around the ball for a good couple of hours. After a while we were a bit tired so we decided to take a rest in the shade.  I turned my back for a minute and by the time I looked at my son again, he was already sitting in the shade — half lotus.  This amazed me as he just did it on his own. So I of course just joined him. Can’t begin to describe what the wonder I experienced with that one.

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Then, my wife took him to the Lego store where they have big tubs of blocks so you can build whatever you like.  I was at work but she sent me a picture of what he had built all on his own.  A temple. Again, amazement

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I think the seeds of mindfulness appear to be taking root, and I am humbled. I have to admit, this is more encouraging to my practice than any Dharma talk I can imagine.

…joining palms

Being a father

It is said that when Queen Maya was carrying Siddhartha she had a dream. Her dream was translated to mean that when the baby was born, if he stayed home, he would become a world conqueror, but if he left the home, he would become a Buddha. Hearing this, Siddhartha’s father, the king, kept him on his land. We can imagine this was done to protect him, but also so the king would have an heir to his throne when the time came. The king hid all aspects of suffering from Siddhartha during his young life. Then one day Siddhartha left the kingdom and witnessed a sick man, an old man, a dead man, and a monastic. From there we know he went off to find enlightenment.

We all know this story well, and with Father’s Day coming up, I have been thinking about each piece of the story. Most of the time we concentrate on the actions told about Siddhartha, but let us take a different look; a look at the king, Siddhartha’s father.

We can assume he loved his son very much. In his mind he wanted what he thought was best for the boy; riches, status, and a life free from trouble. Maybe even a bit of his own ego was at fault if we assume he wanted to someday have an heir to his throne. As a father, I can understand this very well. And, as a Buddhist, I am thankful that young Siddhartha was able to look past what his father intended for him; and give us the wisdom in which we base our own faith on; the path to enlightenment.

See, as a father, you want the best for your sons and daughters. When you have a child your life no longer belongs to you; it is theirs. Every action must be done with the best of intentions for your children.

And when the time comes, we fathers must also have the wisdom to allow them to go out on their own. Their path to enlightenment is a road only they can travel. May we be fortunate enough to help them take their first step down that path, and allow them to go on their travels…

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at Hsi Lai, originally uploaded by mindonly.

(I wrote this as an article for the upcoming issue of Buddha’s Light Magazine, but since we’re still working on that website, I thought I would post it here for anyone interested in reading.)

Tonight I sat with my son

I’ve been wanting to do this since he was born. Actually, since even before that. I have always known this would be a great way to teach him, but for him to be interested in meditation the timing had to be right. If I was to force it upon him I would be doing the opposite of what was intended. So, I waited until I knew the time was right.

Me: “I have an idea of what we can do later.”

Ian: “What is it Daddy?”

Me: “We can sit like the Buddha; I can help show you. Do you want to try?”

Ian: “Ok, we can try that.”

Perfect. He seemed ready and even interested.

So we did our usual routine, dinner, shower, reading, then get ready for bed. My wife and I have always had him on this nightly schedule during the week. Structure is extremely important and has been great for him. Not a strictness, but a structure. Tonight I was able to add something though.

Once he was ready for bed, he and I sat facing one another.We placed our legs in half lotus position. Placed our palms together in our laps. Straightened our backs. I showed him the most basic beginnings.

Breath in, breath out. That is one.

Breath in, breath out. That is two.

We did this to ten.

It was the first time he had sat, ten was enough. But he did it. Ian sat. May this help his path of mindfulness, no matter where that path takes him.

…joining palms

letting go…

Friday night, Ian had his first sleepover at a friends house. He was so excited, but admittedly, I had a bit of a hard time with it. I knew he would be fine, but I just have a hard time letting go sometimes. I know I have to do it – little by little as he grows up; but there really is no better way of learning what attachment means is there.